Happiness to me means waking up in my Manhattan apartment, having Starbucks for breakfast, going to work for a global media company, spending time alone at Central Park, visiting museums, frequently attending Broadway plays, being inspired by the daily happenings of New York City and writing novels about love and life. When I tell people my dreams they often laugh at me but that doesn’t stop me from dreaming anyway. My advice to you is don’t let it stop you either. I’ve had people say to me “you’re living in a fairy-tale bubble” or “c’mon Kay stop dreaming and be realistic.” I am writing this to let you know, better yet, to beg you to NEVER EVER STOP DREAMING!
The reason I opted to write this now is, I was just like you. I’ve had my doubts about going for my dream job and at times it felt like everyone was right. Truth is, the people who said these things probably had someone tell them the same thing and sadly they listened.
Whether you want to get into fashion design (though you’ve never owned a designer gown) or you’re aiming to be the next man to land on the moon, I say go for it. Regret leaves a sour taste that not even failure can compare to.
I live in on an island that doesn’t have a-quarter of the media houses and opportunities in Journalism that New York City has but I am still an aspiring journalist. I’ve had this dream for many years, and though sometimes, it feels like I’m not going anyway fast and time is just passing me by, I still hold on to them.
Every morning I wake up and picture myself living the life I want, simultaneously living the life I have to live before I get there. I imagine that my home-made coffee is really Starbucks, that my drive way is 5th Ave, NY. That my lunch room at work is really my favourite restaurant to have cocktails with my girls and that Netflix is a live musical. Sounds crazy right? What may work for me, may not work for everyone, but I believe that you are what you think. I believe that you must never loose faith, that sometimes you are your only support and you must fake it until you make it. I also believe that what you may have just shook your head to and said “yes that’s crazy,” I guarantee would be the same thing I would be looking back on (when I do accomplish my goals) saying “thank God I practised when I had the chance.”
Yes, I do admit, I am a Sex & The City fan and at times my imagination get the better of me. (I really think I was Carrie Bradshaw in another life) but don’t be fooled my friend, there’s a method, a motive and a mission behind all the madness.
For you it may not be journalism or New York City, but you may be from a small state in the country-side and have goals of working and living in France. Perhaps, you’re aiming to break your family tradition of high school drop-outs and attend Harvard Law. Whatever your story may be, I understand and I say to you, go for it my friend. Don’t let anyone stop you.
It’s funny how sometimes when you think you’re giving someone else advice, you’re the one really needing it the most. I just decided to write this to encourage someone, and here I am not knowing I needed to hear this one more time. I’m certain now more than ever that I can’t stop dreaming either. So how about we do this together? Starting today, let’s “starve our doubts to death” and let nothing or no one stand in the way of getting our hearts’ desire.
College degree, dream job, travel, true love, whatever it is you were having doubts about earlier, you’re about to get it. Once you put an end to that pity party you were having and definitely stop listening to that person(s) who told you its never going to happen. Maybe you need to let them go, not everyone is meant to make it to your future. Not everyone can handle the journey.
The best advice I’ve ever received and it has stuck with me for the past twelve (12) years goes a little something like this, “whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it will achieve!” I really hope it helps you as much as it helped and continues to help me. Be strong, stay positive, and it’s okay to have BIG dreams. They were always meant to be that size.
One last thing before you go, when you do make it, feel free to come back and share the good news/all your accomplishments. If you’re looking for me, I’ll be someone in New York living my dreams too.