Disturbing to say the least.. that’s how anyone would feel after hearing or reading about the 23-month-old baby girl that died of blunt craniocerebral trauma earlier this week.
Not only is it sad to learn that a baby has died, but the fact that she was electrocuted is heart wrenching. I’m not yet a mother, but learning of this tragedy felt like daggers through my womb as I couldn’t help but wonder how it would feel to lose a part of you… to lose your baby girl?
Not yet two, not yet able to do much of anything on her own, baby Khristha’s life was tragically taken. Still reaching out to hold your mummy’s hand while climbing the stairs, enjoying the company of other babies your age, imitating the actions of older kids, yet still waking up in the middle of the night expecting to see a familiar face. This is what babies go through before they cross over to the terrible two’s.
As for the pain, he or she would experience the discomfort of a gripe and to be cutting teeth. This is what a 23-month-old would usually go through. But for live electric wires to be pressed against your tender little chest and not be able to understand or help yourself because… once again you are a BABY! This is definitely not what any 23-month-old should have to go through EVER.
It gets worse.. though we learnt some facts as to what transpired, what the reports neglected to highlight is that the “male relative” has only been courting the mother of the baby four months now. No you did not read it incorrectly… only four months now!
I’m not a detective, so I’m not going to try to figure out why in God’s name the man would decide to take it upon himself and use electrical wires to resuscitate an infant without any medical qualification, experience or magical powers. God alone knows what was going through his mind at the time. But it does make me think about something else.
It makes me wonder, how soon is too soon to introduce your baby to the person that you’re dating? There’s no shortage of questions when considering dating, far less dating after having kids from a previous relationship. So, do you let your partner meet your baby at the start to see how he does with kids? Or do you date him for an extensive period before he meets your baby? In this case, four months seemed more than enough time for baby Khristha’s mom to not only introduce her new love to her baby girl but also feel comfortable enough for him to take care of her as well. Unfortunately, it did not end happily ever after.
While it’s normal to seek solace, companionship, and a sexual relationship after coming out from a messy relationship, it is also so very crucial to take things slow and allow yourself to assess whether this relationship is worth risking your children’s lives. You may have great chemistry with someone, but unless your baby does too, I don’t think it’s worth it.
My advice – protect your babies with your life. Don’t trust every and anyone. Babies aren’t even safe in daycares anymore. And as far as dating is concerned, a baby takes up a lot if not all of your time the first couple of years. To step back into the dating game with an infant under two years of age is definitely a risk. All parents, single or dating and parents-to-be reading this, let us all take this tragedy and turn into your lesson. Prevention is better than cure. Be careful who your allow into your lives, your hearts and definitely with your kids.
“A baby is a blessing, a gift from above. A precious little angel, to cherish and to love”
Dear Future baby,
I promise to protect you with everything in me.
You can view the news story also written by me here : http://www.cnc3.co.tt/news/baby-killed