New Beginnings

It’s a new month!  And if you know anything about me, you’ll know that I LOVE the idea of new beginnings. I love Sundays because it falls on the brink of a new week. (Technically, it is the first day of the week.) And, it’s the time when everyone is planning for what’s ahead (whether it’s preparing for school or work, etc.) I love the beginning of new months, a new year and I have always been the appointed one to plan my friends’ birthday celebrations because I love celebrating the beginning of new chapters in one’s life.

Well, guess what? This month is especially important to me because it is my birthday month. Yup, I’ll be turning twenty-fine on the 29th of September, 2018 and there’s just so much I’m planning, working toward and hoping to accomplish by then.

But, what does any of that have to do with today’s blog?

Well, I’m glad you asked.

Today, we’ll be discussing the importance of new beginnings.

Though we all love the concept of ‘new’ – when it has to do with receiving gifts. It is also very scary to many because change is something that not everyone embraces wholeheartedly. In fact, more likely than not, there are a lot of you reading right now who shook your head when I mentioned a new month at the start. Because of your age, birthdays have become a daunting thought as well. And ‘new’ is often a hard pill to swallow when it comes as a result of disappointment or failed plans.

Trust me, I get it.

However, I’ve also learnt – the hard way – that after every disappointment in life, God has ‘new’ and fresh opportunities with our names on it.  In fact, if you take a look at all of the disappointments you’ve faced in life thus far, had it not been for them, you probably would not have received or been in a position to receive all of the good things that you now have or experienced. Am I right?

You see this concept of new beginnings wasn’t always so exciting to me, until one day someone shared with me the theory of a new Day 1.

A friend once told me about the “Day 1 notion.” To be honest, I remember being irritated by the fact that there I was venting my problems to him, crying out about this huge disappointment I had just faced and instead of sympathizing with me, he decided to tell me to focus on Day 1. So much for seeking advice, I thought. But the truth is when I did start over and really began to understand the importance of a new day, my life changed forever. And so today I would like to share that with you, too.

If we think about it, starting fresh and having a first day at anything in life is something we all experience. We all have to experience the first day of school, work, a relationship, or even celebrating a new year. Our Day 1 sometimes comes with a lot of anticipation and emotion, but for the other times when we do not really plan for it, we pass it by without a care in the world.

The Day 1’s that are usually planned for are truly the best Day 1’s ever, for new opportunities can bring forth many blessings. For example, the anticipated birth of a newborn child or the taking of the vow before God to the person you are about to spend the rest of your life with. These are all events that begin with a planned Day 1. However, that’s not what he was referring to. He was talking about having a new plan when plans A, B, C to Z all failed and now you really need to find a way to start over.

Some Day 1’s are not planned and so we just overlook the emotion and anxiety that comes with it. For example, picture it was raining yesterday. I mean it was raining cats and dogs and you were caught in the bad weather while on your way to work. I actually don’t have to imagine because this has happened to me many times. Now, imagine you stopped while rushing to work and purchased an umbrella out of severe necessity. What you didn’t realize there is that this is a Day 1 action. It’s day one with a new umbrella.

Simple as it may seem, this is Day 1 of getting to and from work without getting wet when rain falls again. What you simply and effectively did there was find a way to continue on your journey without getting wet or being kept back.

However, if you bought a car for the first time, which does the same job of protecting you from the rain, you would have been excited as hell. The point here is everything begins with a Day 1. No matter if it’s a small step or a huge one, once you’re doing something to change your current circumstance – you’re experiencing a new beginning. And the sooner you respect the significance of that day and the joy and opportunity it can bring you, no matter what, then you would no longer be missing a big part of your life.

So, to that current dilemma you’re facing – you know, that feeling of weariness that you’re secretly dealing with because your big idea just failed and you had no backup plan—to that I say let’s not dwell on it any longer. Instead, let’s focus on what you can do to get to your new day one.

I want you to know that it is okay to be anxious or afraid after being disappointed. But the key lies in your willingness to begin again.

Always remember that F.A.I.L stands for first attempt in learning. Therefore, no matter how many disappointments you go through nor how devastating it leaves you after, like me, you should always look forward to that new beginning.

Disappointment teaches you a lot. So does failure, mistakes, wrecked plans, bad ideas, poor taste and most importantly the lessons you learn from them all. However, once you are willing to stand up after being knocked down and begin again, you will never be the failure. Instead, you’ll now become the hero in your own fairytale. Instead of waiting for someone to save you, you’ll learn how to save yourself.

Each time I had a disappointing experience, I always held on to the idea of a better tomorrow. Today I encourage you, when beginning again, never forget where any journey starts, where any first step begins, where any new invention develops; it happens when you choose to get back up and follow your dreams though you’ve been knocked down.

I’d like for you to also take some things with you going forward. Know that it is okay to cry. It is okay to admit that plan A and even B didn’t work out. It is okay to be disappointed in others and even in yourself. And, it is also okay to fail sometimes. However, do not stop there. Get up after you fall.

According to the great Chinese philosopher Confucius, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

It really doesn’t matter how long it takes. All  that matter is that you need to always dust yourself off and try again.

My  reason for speaking on new beginnings is because as I approach a new year, I have to look back and account for all of the things I’ve done or been through, whether good or bad, and all that is has taught me. I also know that there are some things and people that I can no longer hold on to because not everyone is meant to journey to every new chapter of your life.

And today as you face a new week, as you pray for a new job, as you play with the idea of a new relationship, as you rekindle old friendships, as you venture into new cities, and as you begin to explore new ideas and opportunities in life, I say to you:

  • Let go of the old
  • Do not be afraid of what lies ahead [For we all know who holds our future.]

And most importantly, if you feel like you’re far from the beginning of anything because everything around you seems to be falling apart, coming to an end or it’s all crashing down on you, know that after these storms, there’s always a new Day 1.


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